Why We Get Angry And How To Control Anger

Anger is an emotional distress which must be checked and not
allowed to grow into a mighty rage. People have died from the
anger of country or group leaders through creation of wars or
through acts of terrorism. Marital abuse, child abuse and
street fights are some of the effects of anger that have gone
out of control.
Usually a person gets angry not out of choice but out of
provocation. The challenge here is to disallow provocation to
influence our emotion and make us do things that we regret
later. If we have a problem in managing our anger, we must
learn to control it before it controls us.
What causes anger? Let us identify the triggers before we get
to how to control it. When we understand where it is coming
from, we will recognize and curb the symptoms.
* Frustration due to obstacles to what we desire or need.
* Pain and discomfort
* Our angry childhood environment
* Personal insult
* Huge ego
How do we control our anger? We cannot control how and when we
get angry but we can control and choose what we want to do with
our anger. If we know that we fly off the handle easily, there
are ways that we can do to manage it.
Expressing anger is not necessarily unhealthy, as long as it is
constructive and serves as a warning. When an anger is
suppressed over a long period of time, there is a possibility of
greater damage when that anger is released eventually. In the
society that we live in it is expected of us to suppress or
repress our anger so be mindful when you choose to keep
something within, you either overcome by forgiving or you let
your feelings known calmly.
We can choose to walk away from a volatile situation to give
ourselves time to recover and reflect. You will begin to see
things in different perspective when you have time to cool off.
Why sweat it and use up a lot of energy in this already
stressful world?
Go drink a glass of water, as water has healing properties. Go
lie down somewhere else and stop focusing on the negative
scenario. Stop giving energy to the anger. In some religious
belief, anger is the devil itself. It sits right on top of your
head and spur you on. Do not give permission for your anger to
breed.
To forgive is to forget and it still holds true. It's a simple
yet powerful way to release the toxic from your system. Say out
loud that no one has the right to offend you without your
permission. When you forgive someone, you forgive yourself too.
Try to look at it with a sense of humour. Laughter is indeed
the best medicine. Another way is through meditation where you
seek peace, clarity and selfempowerment. Or you can release
anger by exercising or brisk walking.
Do a self-evaluation and establish what situation makes you
angry? If ego is always the cause of you anger, then deal with
your ego. Wanting to be right always does not give you the
right to be angry. However if you feel it is beyond you to
overcome your anger by yourself, get professional help.
There is no issue of shame if what you are doing will help
yourself and the people around you.

Anger control is possible once you decide you want to control
it and not let it control you. Walk away, reflect , laugh and
forgive. If it gets too hard, seek help through medication or
alternative healing.


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