Why Do We Need To Control Anger?

It is often difficult to preserve control of your natural
impulses while others close to us make us angry. It can be still
more difficult with the cost of living raising every year and
bringing more pressure into our lives, and as if that is not
sufficient the legal and political system is regularly putting
more stress on us everyday.
Most of us deal with the stressors in life as they come our
way, but a few of us cannot and become out of control.
Management is frequently the best answer for treating anger; but
then, the individual must be ready to admit their actions are
leading to more problems and be prepared to obtain a solution.
If a person react violently, verbally abusive, assaulting
others and so on, it not only leads to trouble for the person
that is out of control, it also causes difficulties for others.
Normally when a person has anger issues he or she will attack
other people perhaps physically or mentally or even both. The
angry person will often attack in a way that belittles,
humiliates, harms, or threatens another. This person truly needs
to learn to manage his or her anger, because anybody around him
or her is affected to a certain amount.
Anger is mainly the inability to restrain our basic impulses,
needs and emotions. If a person is out of contact with his
emotions, it frequently creates a chaotic mind. Anger is not
necessarily a bad thing, when and if a person is threatened; it
is always good to have an amount of anger to protect you, but
when a person doesn't have any control at all then it will lead
to problems.
Anger, sadness, joy and happiness are all parts of our
emotions, and when we have those emotions in control we can live
a productive life. However, when we begin to target or attack
others then it is more and more difficult for us to handle our
life and anger.
One clearly recognized example is school bullying, for a few
children going to school is a nightmare, each day a bully will
antagonize this child pushing him beyond his limit of control.
The child may hold his feelings in for a period, but eventually
he or she is going to loose control, due to the fact that none
of us is prepared to continue permitting someone to make our
lives miserable.
Sorry to say, when this child gets to his or her limit and
returns the attack on the other youngster, he then becomes the
culprit and is frequently punished. The bully could quite often
get away with his actions, and once the victim takes action he
or she is frequently punished. The school personnel will often
say why didn't you tell me what was going on? However, the fact
is the child most likely told the personnel and in my
experiences, they seldom act. The out come is that now we have
two children with anger troubles and more people in trouble.
This is merely one of the numerous reasons why a person
cultivates anger to the point at which they feel they have to
retaliate.
Each time we are angry we feel it in our body and mind. Our
body will often tense up if we feel angry. If you feel this
tension then it is time to step back and take control. Ask
yourself, why am I mad? Why do I feel this way? Asking yourself
questions might help you find the answers if you search your
mind hard enough.
Generally after a person has developed a level of anger that is
out of control, they will frequently strike out at people even
if there is no justifiable reason. The person may have just
moved something that belonged to that person and they respond by
saying something like, you stupid moron, why in the hell did you
move my belongings? I cannot believe how stupid you are. Why do
you bother breathing? This is completely inappropriate behavior;
the angry person may attack physically by kicking, hitting,
punching, spitting, or causing other types of harm to the
individual. It is vital to get management in play if you have
anger problems.
If you cannot control your emotions then one day, someone will
control them for you. Anger is great if you have it under
control, but when you loose control somebody, someday will pay
and that someone in most cases will be you as well as the trail
of victims you leave behind you.


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