Alcohol And Feelings Of Anger

There may be many emotions a person experiences while working
on the issue of sobriety. Anger is one of those emotions and one
of the most powerful.
When a person is trying to remain sober it is important to know
how to handle those feelings. If you understand how to recognize
these feelings and what to do with them, it is easier to avoid
relapse.
There are some steps you can follow to help you deal with the
anger issues that involve alcohol. When anger is mismanaged it
poses a threat to the recovery process for both those who have
just stopped drinking and those who have not been drinking
alcohol for a long time.
First of all you will want to learn how to recognize angry
feelings. Discover the ways your anger reveals itself and how
you know when you are angry.
Are you in the habit of denying your feelings of anger and
hiding those feelings? Are you able to own your anger and go
with it? All of these things are important and you will need to
learn how to recognize your feelings of anger.
The second thing you can do is to make a list of your anger
signs. Notice and record stomach, head and back aches. You may
have a problem with rapid speech when you become angry. You may
use sarcasm or become cynical. Do you scream and yell or argue
with others when you are angry? Is violence an issue?
Also list any isolation techniques you use or if you tend to
avoid people when you are angry. Often when a person is no
longer drinking alcohol they will still have thoughts about
using. Have you experienced compulsive actions that involve,
eating, spending too much, gambling or sex?
You can add to the list denial or rationalization problems you
have when angry, as well as revenge fantasies. Do you withhold
yourself from others or become silent? All of these things may
be signs of anger.
Next, pay attention to the causes of your anger. Think about
the situation that resulted in your feelings of anger. Who else
was involved and was it the first time or has it become a
pattern?
Think about any other feelings that were involved. Were you
stressed, lonely, hungry, scared or tired? All of these things
can play a part in recognizing triggers to anger.
Now, what are some positive things that can be done after you
have done your accessing, recognizing and list making? There are
actually several things you can do to help yourself when anger
and abstaining from alcohol have taken a toll.
Decide how you will behave. When you know what you are up
against and you recognize the triggers, there will be many times
when the choice of how to handle your anger will be up to you.
You can make good choices or ones that will only hurt yourself,
others and your recovery process.
One way to make the best choices is to learn how to talk
yourself through difficult situations. Talk to yourself in a
calm and reassuring manner and use reason. Figure out what the
outcome may be if you are able to make good decisions.
If there is another person involved, be willing to talk with
them calmly and assertively. Try to listen patiently without
interrupting. Avoid name calling and blaming the other person.
If you are too angry to talk at the time of the incident, wait a
few days if necessary.
You can manage your anger effectively while abstaining from
alcohol.

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