Anger And Rejections

Rejections are normal and we all are told no on many occasions.
Some persons have difficulty handling rejections and may react
hastily to the other person involved. If you walk in a bank and
apply for a loan and are rejected you might stomp out the door
shouting obscene talk to the lenders. This is not an appropriate
way to handle the situation.
This in fact can get you in trouble and it is obvious that
rejections are triggers to your emotions that enforce your
anger. Now that you see this is a trigger you will need to learn
how to cope with your anger and emotions. We can start with the
technique to work through your anger by reducing your stress. If
you are a spontaneous person then you will need to learn how to
cut back on stressors. If you feel pressured in the morning
before going to work, try picking out the clothes you will wear
for that day the following evening.
This will provide you an extra few minutes during the morning
to prepare for work. If you are running like a mad person to
meet classes, then you might want to set up a schedule for your
self that includes time management. This can help you learn to
prepare ahead and stay on top of things without rushing. Instead
of roaming thoughts through your head about what you, need to do
each day, try handling one task at a time.
This works wonders once you practice and continue with your
strategy. When you feel angry, try taking a few deep breaths
before you speak. You may also want to practice exercising since
this burns energy and often reduces your chances of exploding
when your emotions are threatened. If you cannot handle
rejections, coach your mind to believe that the person is not
centering you out. Repeat over in your mind that no is a
positive in many cases.
For example, if you are married, you enjoy going to the bar to
chat with your friends, and your husband does not want you to
go, and then think why he said no? Obviously, your husband cares
about you since he knows that danger is potentially high at
bars. He does not want you to get hurt therefore, he is saying
no in your best interest. If the bank turns you down on a loan
there is a legit reason. Maybe your credit report needs some
repairing, or maybe they felt you income would not cover the
loan amount.
Therefore, you best interest was at heart again. We all hear no
throughout our lifetime and most times, it is for the best
reasons. If you apply for a job and are turned down, it might be
in your best interest, since the employers felt that your skills
were not on the level that the job required of you.
Alternatively, you may be over qualified for the job and when
you are rejected, the employers are merely saying we do not have
the cash to pay you for what you are worth. Thinking positive is
always great for managing anger.
If you are prompt to explode when your emotions are interrupted
then it is difficulty to manage your life. If you are angry most
likely, all areas of your life seem like an uphill travel. When
you gain control this often benefits everyone, including your
self. Your life starts to improve and your mind is thanking you
for removing stress from its cavity. If you are prone to beat
your self up when rejections come your way, you might want to
find a positive side of your being and enforce it in your mind
repeatedly.
Practice makes perfect and this is a great way to train your
mind so that you gain control of your mind and anger. If you are
frustrated easily, it is probably because you do not take time
out of a day for your self to relax. There is nothing wrong with
relaxing. Therefore you can sit down for 30 minutes each day and
yoga or think of nothing at all. Finally, we are closing so I
wanted to let you know that once you practice the strategies for
dealing with anger, pat your self on the back each time you make
effort and achieve.


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