Anger Problems Destroy Intimate Relationships

Anger problems are the cause of a lot of misery in intimate
relationships. The increasing number of anger management classes
available is one way society has attempted to help angry men fix
their problems.
One of the major problems for angry men is the damage that is
done to their relationships with their partners. Often they feel
riddled with guilt over things they have done to the people they
love the most.
Many of these relationships are filled with drama, crisis and
conflict. Here are the common issues that men with anger
problems face in their relationships with women.
1. Lack of intimacy. If your relationship is full of noisy
conflict and then periods of angry silence, chances are you are
not having a happy intimate life with your partner.
To feel intimate with someone you have to be able to trust
them. To be trustworthy you need to be predictable. Angry men
are not very predictable. Women will find it difficult to relax
and be intimate with you because they do not know if you will
suddenly change and become angry or start criticizing them.
2. Controlling behavior. Often angry men will want to decide
what a woman can and can't do, who she can see and where she can
go. This is abusive behavior. Being controlling will cause a lot
of problems in relationships.
Being angry most of the time make some men feel a need to try
and control everything that goes on around them. They mistakenly
believe that by trying to control others they will not lose
control themselves. This is one of the key thought distortions
that anger management classes can help men to change.
3. Blaming and criticism. Angry men lash out at others in an
attempt to avoid facing their real feelings and taking
responsibility for their lives. Often this is quite unconscious.
They are not aware of why they use have angry outbursts or how
to stop them.
Often they do not have the ability to manage feelings of grief,
sadness or anxiety. Being angry is more acceptable for men in
our society than being sad or anxious. This is a subtle pressure
of men to manage their emotions with action instead of talking
them over or expressing them truthfully.
This type of anger problem will affect your relationships with
women, particularly if you swear and become aggressive with your
partner when angry. Blaming and criticizing your partner will
lead to a lack of intimacy and even more conflict in the long
run. Living with a critical partner causes women to feel unhappy
in a relationship. Criticizing a woman will not change her
behavior; it will only cause more ill feelings between you.
Anger management classes can be very effective in helping men
recognize these patterns and begin to change them. The internet
has made it possible to take online anger management classes in
the privacy of your own home. Learning effective methods to
manage you anger problem can improve your relationships with
women and reduce conflict.


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